- Some men say that their fathers taught them this after learning it at various Ivy League schools. Ivy League schools tend to be untrumpable bastions of etiquette, as it were. (Go Quakers!)
- Getting ties cleaned is a risky proposition. It doesn't always work and it is not always done well. This ensures that your ties stay clean.
- It is common practice at business lunches. Just because it isn't in the etiquette books doesn't mean it has not become acceptable and normal. Case in point: When is the last time you saw a fish fork?
- I eat, therefore I tuck. And, it's better than tossing it over one shoulder.
- This is actually very trendy right now. All the cutting edge men in Scandinavia do this all the time. Some people are calling it the "Manhattan Tuck."
Anti Tie Tuck thoughts:
- Just don't do it. Your body would have to be at a 45 degree angle for your tie to roam around near the sauces and soups. Use good judgment about what you order, good posture, and that handy thing they call a napkin, and you'll be just fine.
- This shows a lack of respect for the people you're dining with. Order food that isn't risky for your tie, and eat your drippy sandwiches or bowls of soup another time.
- The tie tuck indicates your lack of confidence in your ability with a fork and knife.
- Yes, people do it, but it's tacky.
- How could it be trendy to tuck your tie into your shirt? Is this the etiquette apocalypse?
To be honest, I'm more confused than ever. The fact that I found this debate lurking on my favorite fashion blog, The Sartorialist, leads me to believe that there is no right answer to this question. So, to that end, Ryan, I retract my answer. I think you're probably right to tuck when you feel comfortable doing so. And until I start wearing ties, Annie Hall style, I'll reserve judgment.
So...I guess that leaves here: Happy tucking (or not tucking), my friends.
PS: The awesome tie above is from Vineyard Vines: http://www.vineyardvines.com/
PPS: The Sartorialist rocks: http://www.thesartorialist.blogspot.com/