A dear friend of Proper Sister-In-Law just got engaged. This is true love, people, and an engagement that was as perfectly delivered as it was highly anticipated. (Good job, R. For real.)
Proper SIL was sharing the lovely engagement story with me, when her eyes sort of fixed themselves on a point in the distance as she said, "I told her to wait a few days to decide who would be in her bridal party."
I hailed Proper SIL's wisdom in response, and am doing so again in bloggy land. For in terms of solid, high quality advice that you can give to a friend who has just become affianced, waiting to make the call on who will march down the aisle before you is high on the list.
To be clear, my wedding party was awesome. We were insta-party, party-a-go-go. And SIL never once cast aspersion on the composition of her own wedding party. But, having both planned weddings and lived to tell the tale with pride and happiness, we both acknowledge the wisdom in just waiting a few days to start picking your team, as it were.
In short? Beware of you own (exuberant and well-intentioned but maybe overblown) hot air.
Because, just to draw us an (unnecessary) map to the possible consequences, if you ask seventeen people to be in your wedding when you are half sloshed on Cava because Proper Groom popped the question, there is no takey backy the day after when you realize you'd rather just have two. And if you ask your "sometimes" friend and then instantly regret it, there is no mulligan. And that's bad news, people.
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Confession: I still haven't posted our engagement news on FB (and likely never will) for exactly that reason. If you don't know, you won't feel put out!
Great advice. And, you don't have to have husband's sisters. You don't.
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